In the 1995 film, “To Die For,”
Nicole Kidman’s character, Suzanne, says, “You aren’t really anybody in America
if you aren’t on TV.” In an aside, another character quotes Suzanne with the
following commentary:
Suzanne
used to say that you're not really anybody in America unless you're on TV...
'cause what's the point of doing anything worthwhile if there's nobody
watching? So when people are watching, it makes you a better person. So if
everybody was on TV all the time, everybody would be better people. But, if
everybody was on TV all the time, there wouldn't be anybody left to watch, and
that's where I get confused.
Reality TV has
intensified this notion that anyone can and perhaps even should be a celebrity as if the ambition of Suzanne to be seen is the
pinnacle of human endeavor. Rock group
Living Color produced a song in 1988 called “Cult of Personality,” a biting
critique of fame. And while the message
in the lyrics seems a bit muddled, the danger of idolatry is clearly noted.
Yet, without any
sense of irony, our present culture seems to glory in idolatry – in the cult of
personality. But such idol worship makes
a mockery of real life. As Donna the
Buffalo sings, “What does all this Hollywood really have to do with us?”
Reality TV has
nothing to do with real life. And if we
seek to make real life anything like TV, then life becomes hypocritical, vacuous
and superficial. An actor I know
recently told me that reality TV is just bad drama/comedy that has taken the
place of good stories and acting. And
yet the American public either has an insatiable thirst for bad TV, or
Hollywood is intent on making us into dumbed-down consumers of shallowness.
Real life is not a
hunk of a guy having a harem of women clamoring for his attention. Real life is not a competition to stay on an
island. In real life, the kitchen should
not the setting for a competition. In
real life, we don’t consider the bad behavior of other people as a form of
entertainment.
As a Christian, I
cling to the promise of Jesus that he came that we may have life to the full
(John 10:10). There’s not much on TV or
in Hollywood that hints at fullness of life.
I prefer the interactions of real people in real time - Taking a walk in
a local park with my wife. Playing
guitar with my talented, musician children.
Preparing a meal and anticipating my guests’ pleasure. Visiting the sick in an attempt to provide
comfort and encouragement. Providing
shelter for those temporarily on the streets and having conversation with them
as an acknowledgement of our common humanity.
Going to work each day and honoring the contributions of my fellow
workers.
Real life seems
less spectacular than reality TV and the cult of personality. But then, who ever said that a full life
should be a spectacle? Jesus, whose
personality is certainly compelling, eschewed any sense of spectacle when he
refused the Satan’s temptation to leap off the pinnacle of the temple in order
to draw attention to himself. His
example is a counterpoint to the self-idolatry promoted in our present age.
I long for fullness
of life for everyone. Such fullness is
not found in the range of the camera lens but in the day to day loving of one
another. May your life be so full.